Feedback, constructive criticism, assessment, evaluation, observation…whatever you want to call it, it should be given and received as a way to #becomebetter. Unfortunately it can be a slippery slope. One that many avoid being a part of. If feedback is not something one is seeking, then often times is perceived negatively and defenses can build barriers.
I recently learned of a teacher who sought out feedback. They put a sign on the door that said, “Come in and watch me. I’m looking for feedback on…” What I love about this is the teacher has a specific goal in my mind and wants feedback so that goal can be reached thus becoming better at whatever it may be. They are also reaching out for help. They realize there are others out there who can help them #becomebetter. The door is open.
I came across this article: Leader Tips about Feedback. A very short read with clear explanations on what feedback can be.
Often times feedback can be messy because relationships are sometimes messy and have many moving parts. What I have learned is to be careful when giving feedback when it hasn’t been sought out. Sometimes feedback can get confused thus allowing for misunderstandings and hurt feelings.
I’m also learning that receiving feedback is a skill that should not go unnoticed. In a recent issue of Educational Leadership by ASCD in an article titled, “Stop Sabotaging Feedback”, I read
Receiving feedback is an important skill because even well-delivered, well-intentioned feedback will fall flat if the receiver doesn’t hear it the way it’s meant….Being good at receiving feedback doesn’t necessarily mean agreeing with the feedback—rather, it means engaging in the conversation with an open mind and heart and then making a thoughtful choice about whether the feedback is useful.
I think if one is “opening their door” to feedback they should be ready to receive it by making sure they understand it. The article continues to give two concrete examples,
- Don’t Fixate on What’s Wrong with the Feedback
- Dig Deeper
To further the learning of receiving Feedback, This Ted Talk by Sheila Heen made me really think. There is so much to be learned:
If one truly is able to give and receive feedback, a culture of feedback and growth can occur in our schools thus allowing for us all to #becomebetter.
So, Come In and Watch Me. I Want Feedback on Giving and Receiving Feedback.
How about you? What do you want to receive feedback on?